Breaking news!

Breaking news!
Jerry Rice Ditches the Earrings !

In a still developing story, all-time pass receiving leader Jerry Rice has ditched the “hoop” earrings he has been sporting seemingly forever- on both ears !!!!

What does this mean? BonesBallers need to know. Well, I hope it means that somebody got to Jerry and said, “Jerry you’re better than this.”

But what does that mean?
Better than what? In our – “image is everything” – world creating the good image- bad image- and interchanging them is what keeps it all going.

Maybe Jerry did not look macho enough or football presidential enough in the ESPN team evaluation of the replacement referees who have possibly, through their inexperience etc., caused some teams to lose games. What works for Dancing With the Stars does not work for sports commentating? Why Not? Image issues? What could they be?
The NFL, usually so attentive to its image among its millions of fans has basically said – as long as the fans are watching, let’s just go with the replacement guys. Fans and players may complain but as long as the fans watch and the players play, why do anything? For us BonesBallers, this is what we call a compethical problem. We refer to Compethics as the study of competing ethics. Why are we so much more obsessed with small things like Jerry’s earrings (btw, he still has earrings, just smaller) and we seem to let huge ethical issues like the integrity of the game of football just wave in the wind.

How did image become more important than talent? What difference does it make that Jerry Rice was just accessorized all wrong? He’s Jerry Rice! Can we blame the internet, where overnight success can come from showing someone eating a football? But let’s be serious about this image thing. Did we really care anything about a great player like Jonathan Vilma (who?) until he challenged big papi commish in the “bounty gate,” (players being paid for violent hits) and won an appeal and changed his image forever?

He beat the system! We all want to do that just once in a lifetime! We don’t seem to care what kind of image we have as long by hook or crook as we have one that everybody appreciates, hates, likes or envies – but in some way, respects! We know this obsession with image leads to horrible outcomes sometimes.

BonesBallers know that this obsession with image has been with us before we had anything like the fame making tech devices of today. The Frontier spirit that was obsessed with conquering whole countries in many ways is the great, great, great grandfather of the team spirit obsessed with conquering the arch rival team –all in the name of image brought on by a sense of winning!

The historical obsession with moral courage to create social change in spite of the consequences has been with us throughout time. The image of oneself as meaningful to social change (even many times leading to loss of life) is alive and well in many of the movements towards democracy throughout the world. We are even in a major transition in our ethical ideas about what it means to have and who should have an intimate relationship with another or with the world itself. As we Facebook, Tweet, and text ourselves into seeing each other through less and less words, BonesBallers know that “it’s all good.” Cause “what you see is what you get if you can see it.”

Let the image you make be your own !

Barry Orms
Ex NBA player and now BonesBaller

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The Food of Fame

Feed me a controversy – BIG, small, SUPER BIG, even virtual– and I will eat it up- as long as you heat it up for me.
The only problem with eating controversy is that it’s only nourishing to those who feed you. Mike Huckabee – former Governor of Arkansas and presidential candidate, has teamed up with fast food chain Chick-fil -A to let us know that marriage can only exist between a man and a woman.
As soon as I heard about this I immediately, for some reason, started singing the lyrics to a song of the great artist formerly known, and now again known, as Prince. Not only does Prince serve up his share of wonderful controversy from time to time, he even aptly named one of his first hits, “Controversy” – for me – the original food for thought song on controversy. I ate it up!
“Controversy” written by “Prince”
“I just can’t believe all the things people say — controversy
Am I black or white? am I straight or gay? — controversy
Do I believe in god? do I believe in me? — controversy
Controversy controversy
I can’t understand human curiosity — controversy
Was it good for you? was I what you wanted me to be? — controversy
Do you get high? does your daddy cry? — controversy
Controversy controversy

Do I believe in God? Do I believe in me?
Some people wanna die so they can be free
(I said) life is just a game, were all just the same…do you wanna play?
Controversy, controversy, controversy
Controversy controversy controversy”

Our father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven
Give us this day our daily bread and forgive us our trespasses
As we forgive those who trespass against us
Lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil
For thine is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever and ever
Controversy controversy controversy controversy
Love him, love him baby
Controversy controversy controversy
Controversy controversy controversy

People call me rude, I wish we were all nude
I wish there was no black and white, I wish there were no rules
(repeat 3 times)
Controversy controversy

Do I believe in god? do I believe in me? let me tell ya…
Some people wanna die so they can be free
(I said) life is just a game, we’re all just the same…don’t ya wanna play?
Controversy controversy controversy controversy
And for us BonesBallers, we thank you Prince because life does indeed – today more than ever – seem to be a game that everyone is trying to play by some made up rules. And the checklist for who can be married to whom, and what marriage is, has new old rules for us to chew on.

I’ve always wanted to know what marriage was and who can and should marry – so when I now look at the Chick fil-A menu, I’ve decide that I’ll have a “Mike Huckaburger” because that dish will define marriage for me. Doesn’t taste that good but I got it fast. Oh, what is the nutritional value for a Mr. Huckabee himself? He must feel very energized by those 217,000 email responses to his call to do the right thing and eat some fast food fast?

Of course if you get heartburn, blame Obama. He probably supports some food union that the Republicans want to get rid of –or if you go to Chick-fil-A on Sunday, just say heartburn is good if you get it for God. You can also blame Romney because Bain Capital will probably buy Chick Fil-A and ship the business (and everybody eating there at the time) to China!
Buy the Big Obama Government Sandwich at Chick-fil-A and everybody gets health care and a welfare plate of money 12-2PM on Fridays at your local voter registration office. (Not intended to be a get the vote out promotion or combat voter suppression)
Buy the Small Government Cash Back Bucket, and everybody that’s properly married gets a free bite of the “Are you happy now” chicken nugget at Chick- fil-A. It’s small I know, but what do you expect for free? Oh I forgot. The nugget comes with a gun. Almost forgot the real controversy maker—the gun!!
Breaking News! Billy Graham is on board with Chick-fil-A’s new “See The Light Salad.”
And don’t get me started on that huge music food controversy between Lady Gaga and Carly Rae Jensen, (The “Call Me Maybe” song girl). If you want to eat that one up you will have to serve yourself.
Life is a game and indeed it does seem to be a fame game. Controversy seems to get your team noticed. We BonesBallers play to win by eating raw, no GMO, home grown, self generated food for thought. It’s an acquired taste.

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Forgiveness 2.0

“How does one know if he/she has forgiven? You tend to feel sorrow over the circumstance instead of rage, you tend to feel sorry for the person rather than angry with him. You tend to have nothing left to say about it all.” Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Each night when I would tuck in my now grownup beautiful daughter, I would ask her, “Is there anybody you need to forgive?” She was only 7 at the time but she had exhibited early signs that she understood issues of the spirit.

She was in Catholic school and little did her mother and I know at the time that the Catholic Church itself would subsequently be caught up in it’s own forgiveness dilemmas. On many nights at “tuck in” time there were her stories of experiences with the nuns who had seemingly wrongly chastised or even slapped someone.

There were friends who had treated her wrongly in this way or that way. Each night we would work our way towards a realization that the people who had hurt her and others were not acting in their truest spiritual nature and that we had to see beneath the bad behavior and though we should not excuse the behavior, we could forgive them to some degree. I had my own issues with forgiveness and as a seeker of truth I struggled with how to communicate the reality that people who hurt others must of course pay a price for such actions. But I was also wanting to find a way to say that if we walk around with an ongoing fear of others and what they might do to us and if we carry the need for vengeance and retaliation, we will never reach our spiritual potential. I wanted to tell her all about my painful childhood memories but I did not. After all I was the adult. Still, I should have found a way to tell her my stories too. As we all say – “I wish I knew then what I know now”. However, we have to realize that spirit growth comes whenever it comes. I have now discovered things about my own parents’ childhoods that have given me great insight into the true beauty of our relationship beyond the obvious “they’re right and I’m wrong until I turn18 cry for freedom.” I have learned that the parent/child relationship had great lessons to teach me about who we are vs. who we seem to be when conditioned by our sometimes challenging lives. Now since my parents, my daughter and I are adults, we find ourselves living in a world of repression, depression, denial, alienation and whatever else the psychoanalysts label our state of mind. We are now numb from political and social malaise. Further, we feel helpless against the violent and seemingly inhuman acts that appear to take place every day. Is punishment enough? Is forgiveness even possible when the act is beyond comprehension?

As everyone piles on Joe Paterno for not acting in the proper way in the Sandusky horror story, the question comes to mind – can we forgive him and what would such forgiveness mean?

In Catholic School and in the Christian religion, my daughter was taught that we are all sinners and there was a sacrificial lamb who’d taken the pain of our collective, deserved punishment. Who takes the pain for the Sandusky/Paterno/ Penn State victims

Every religion seems to have its take on sin and guilt and what we should do with it. Essential to winning the games of power building and reputation or even Brand dominance maintenance, rules and laws that prevent admission of guilt seem almost God-sent. Great Powerbrokers have playbooks just like great athletic teams. Mainly the hearts and minds of customers, fans, voters etc have to be drawn into a good vs. evil tug of war.

BonesBallers live to play the game of life beyond this “either or” “yes or no,” “you’re with us or against us,” power preservation game. Let’s face it. We all play it to varying degrees. Do we all need forgiveness of some kind?

Isn’t that the game Paterno played – just only for very high stakes? Did he want to see the boys suffer? Of course not! He played the game of protecting the school and himself. He made a horrible choice in our eyes. I guess we can say he has received the death penalty and maybe even more. His entire legacy will be one of shame. The NCAA may slap its own version of the “death penalty” on Penn State’s athletic program.

The victims are potentially scarred for life. Is therapy or some perceived higher truth about why seemingly good people do horrible things going to be enough? BonesBallers can only continue to say, “What you see is what you get if you can see it.” We will continue to hopefully see more about this issue in tomorrows article.

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